With the rise of “I” (individualism) in the world, we have become very accustomed to doing things our own way. No wonder “My Way” is the song most frequently played at British funeral services. Even in South Africa we feel entitled to doing things our own way. It is especially those of us who find ourselves in privileged positions that have become very comfortable with doing things on our own terms.
We speak to people on our own terms
We eat with people on our own terms
We read the Bible on our own terms
We help others on our own terms
We consume on our terms
Just to mention a few…
Doing things on “our own terms” may not sound like such a bad thing to you. Of course, I’m hearing some of you object, “We live in a dog-eat-dog world! What do you expect?!” My concern is just that the world (and here I mean both people of the world and the rest of creation) simply cannot cope with all of us doing things on our own terms.
In the next couple of days I would like to share a few honest stories from my own life – in the first place a way of confessing my own ignorance, secondly in the hope that it would help you become aware of the ways in which we so easily make assumptions about what it right, what is best and what is helpful on our own terms rather than taking a walk to the “other side” of our point of view, sitting down with someone and listening in an attempt to understand and not judge. And thirdly I hope to consider a way forward – if not on our terms, then on whose terms?
Would love for you to stay tuned and engage with the stories and share your thoughts and experiences…